The ladder theory gives a pretty reasonable explanation at the social dynamics between men and women and how their relationships with each other work.
On the other hand, this counterintuitive article has guys everywhere reassessing their approach to women.
I'll stick to my own game and won't be letting anyone cramping my style.
Showing posts with label gender. Show all posts
Showing posts with label gender. Show all posts
Friday, October 23, 2009
Thursday, October 8, 2009
Fathers, Be Good to your Daughters (because you have to)
"A bundle of joy" is an idiomatic expression in English that means a newborn baby, implying that the baby is a bundle that will bring joy to his or her parents and all those around him or her. But nonetheless, the baby will keep his or her parents up, go through potty training, throw tantrums, go through a rebellious teen phase, suck tens of thousands of dollars towards a "college education", and ultimately visit his or her parents once in a while to beg for money. This is typical of both children of both genders, but what is the difference between the two?
It turns out, there's a BIG difference between raising a daughter and raising a son. I have extensive child care taking experience but zero parenting knowledge, so correct me if I'm wrong if any parent out there is reading this. Keep in mind that these are just sweeping generalizations and there are obvious exceptions to the rule.
Males, and by extension sons, are generally introverts and keep to themselves. They're emotionally independent and dislike showing affection unless it's with their partner. Hygiene and shopping for new clothes are kept at a minimum, whatever will please the parentals and the ladies. Usually their biggest expenses of their parents' money will be cars, computers, and big purchases.
Compare that to females, otherwise known as daughters to their parents. They're very in touch with their emotions and can be very "demonstrative" about it. Affection is common with anybody close to them, may it be their family members, close friends, or their significant others. Hygiene is of utmost importance, not to mention spending nearly an hour just to shower, put on make up, do the hair, etc. Shopping, for some unknown reason, is a widely popular pastime for all females. Their biggest expenses happen to be on numerous small items in comparison to the boys, such as various bags of clothes, accessories, make up, etc. Generally speaking, it's much easier to control a son from spending a large sum of money at once than it is to control a daughter from spending numerous sums of money that add up to a long credit card bill.
The actual parenting facet of raising a child also differs for the genders. Sons, for the most part, can be left alone to discover the world on his own. Occasionally you might have to bail him out of jail and give him a stern talking to or perhaps ground him to teach him a lesson. And then there's the awkward sex talk. But for girls, parents have to worry about the sex issue on a completely different level. Fathers have to worry about their daughters showing too much skin, staying out too late with her "high school boyfriend" who always has a five o'clock shadow and rides a motorcycle, and whether or not she'll ever tell him that she's pregnant.
In short, I hope my guys will only carry the Y chromosome. I'll still love any daughters if I do end up having children, but I'll lose even more hours of sleep.
It turns out, there's a BIG difference between raising a daughter and raising a son. I have extensive child care taking experience but zero parenting knowledge, so correct me if I'm wrong if any parent out there is reading this. Keep in mind that these are just sweeping generalizations and there are obvious exceptions to the rule.
Males, and by extension sons, are generally introverts and keep to themselves. They're emotionally independent and dislike showing affection unless it's with their partner. Hygiene and shopping for new clothes are kept at a minimum, whatever will please the parentals and the ladies. Usually their biggest expenses of their parents' money will be cars, computers, and big purchases.
Compare that to females, otherwise known as daughters to their parents. They're very in touch with their emotions and can be very "demonstrative" about it. Affection is common with anybody close to them, may it be their family members, close friends, or their significant others. Hygiene is of utmost importance, not to mention spending nearly an hour just to shower, put on make up, do the hair, etc. Shopping, for some unknown reason, is a widely popular pastime for all females. Their biggest expenses happen to be on numerous small items in comparison to the boys, such as various bags of clothes, accessories, make up, etc. Generally speaking, it's much easier to control a son from spending a large sum of money at once than it is to control a daughter from spending numerous sums of money that add up to a long credit card bill.
The actual parenting facet of raising a child also differs for the genders. Sons, for the most part, can be left alone to discover the world on his own. Occasionally you might have to bail him out of jail and give him a stern talking to or perhaps ground him to teach him a lesson. And then there's the awkward sex talk. But for girls, parents have to worry about the sex issue on a completely different level. Fathers have to worry about their daughters showing too much skin, staying out too late with her "high school boyfriend" who always has a five o'clock shadow and rides a motorcycle, and whether or not she'll ever tell him that she's pregnant.
In short, I hope my guys will only carry the Y chromosome. I'll still love any daughters if I do end up having children, but I'll lose even more hours of sleep.
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Why Girls Like Pink (and Guys Don't)
I was reading an interesting infograph about obvious facts proved by science (found here on the fourth image), and apparently some people believe women are more attracted to pink than men are because they pick up on the red shades often found on ripe fruit and the skin of the opposing gender to read their body language.
Basically, the two deductions I've made from this article is that women are evolutionary inclined to be better at picking out fruit and subsequently cooking food and that men cannot read body language as well as women can. So the next time you women refuse to make a sandwich, remember that us men just can't help ourselves: we're genetically not as talented to make our own sandwich or read the body language of you women walking away with a stern look and crossed arms.
Basically, the two deductions I've made from this article is that women are evolutionary inclined to be better at picking out fruit and subsequently cooking food and that men cannot read body language as well as women can. So the next time you women refuse to make a sandwich, remember that us men just can't help ourselves: we're genetically not as talented to make our own sandwich or read the body language of you women walking away with a stern look and crossed arms.
Sunday, October 4, 2009
"I Like Your Shoes"
Being a guy has its perks: there are never lines in the mens room, we don't bleed from between our legs on a monthly basis, and amongst a plethora of other benefits. Of course, being a guy has its downsides: any time you get physically close to a guy, you have to prevent yourself from doing anything that might seem homosexual, unless both dudes are homosexual. You never, ever talk while in the men's room, especially at the urinals. But what I'm getting at here is that our social interactions are really simple too. You do something wrong to another guy, you say you're sorry, then you guys go back to gaming or just chilling.
It's not the same with females.
A direct comparison with the perks of the guys shows a glaring list of disadvantages of being female. I wouldn't have the experience to comment on the advantages of being a female, other than the ability to have a poor attitude (the vernacular term would be "bitchy") and blame it on the monthly cycle. But in regards to social dynamics, female interactions can be tremendously more complicated than that of males and they tend to have more drama than their male counterparts. Something as trivial as hair can merit hours of attention and criticism. Buying clothes, shoes, accessories, jewelery, etc. tends to be a favorite pastime for many women. And upon displaying an ensemble of purchased clothes, shoes, accessories, jewelery and what have you, women often find themselves in situations where they complement each other's clothes, shoes, accessories, and jewelery.
"I like your bag, where did you get it?"
"Oh this old thing? ON SALE 40%"
"No way!"
There must be an underlying reason for this stark difference between male-male and female-female interactions. Is it because men tend to be social introverts, often found participating in alpha male situations to prove his worth to his peers and potential mates? Or is because women, as social extroverts in comparison to men, need to glorify inanimate objects on their persons to boost the self-esteem of the collective and to reaffirm their self-worth?
It's not the same with females.
A direct comparison with the perks of the guys shows a glaring list of disadvantages of being female. I wouldn't have the experience to comment on the advantages of being a female, other than the ability to have a poor attitude (the vernacular term would be "bitchy") and blame it on the monthly cycle. But in regards to social dynamics, female interactions can be tremendously more complicated than that of males and they tend to have more drama than their male counterparts. Something as trivial as hair can merit hours of attention and criticism. Buying clothes, shoes, accessories, jewelery, etc. tends to be a favorite pastime for many women. And upon displaying an ensemble of purchased clothes, shoes, accessories, jewelery and what have you, women often find themselves in situations where they complement each other's clothes, shoes, accessories, and jewelery.
"I like your bag, where did you get it?"
"Oh this old thing? ON SALE 40%"
"No way!"
There must be an underlying reason for this stark difference between male-male and female-female interactions. Is it because men tend to be social introverts, often found participating in alpha male situations to prove his worth to his peers and potential mates? Or is because women, as social extroverts in comparison to men, need to glorify inanimate objects on their persons to boost the self-esteem of the collective and to reaffirm their self-worth?
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